I know this is sooo late!! I wanted to do this two months ago, but it is going to be short and sweet!! SEX.......first of all we must train our children, so that they know that SEX is NOT a bad word and that it is ONLY for MARRIED PEOPLE, a MAN and a WOMAN!! Second of all Married Ladies, what I wanted to speak about is not letting your own past relationships, abuse, hurt, pain, stop you from having the kind of SEX God would want you to have with your husband!! Single ladies, this is for you too, but only for after you get married and I truly believe that if you have sex, you are opening the door for problems, you don't even HAVE TO have!! Acting like you are married to someone is painful and the devil is going to get you for trying to "play" married!! So there you have it.....don't give the devil place in your life by disobeying God!!
Married ladies, I love you and this was so on my heart the day that I did not get to attend Marriage Made Easy at Spirit of Faith, my church, with the most awesomest (just made up the word) Pastors ever!! SEX can break up a marriage and improper thoughts about SEX can hurt a marriage and have you both miserable trying to stay together. I absolutely LOVE having SEX with my husband, always have and always will, but I have not always been free in SEX and I know that God wants us FREE in every area of our lives!! I was sexually abused by my father from a very young age until I was around 13 when my parents finally split up for good!! Well, because I did not share this abuse with anyone until we came to Spirit of Faith, when I started looking at my life with a magnifying glass, I covered it up ALOT!! Alot of the pain associated with this and the anger (motivated by fear) I felt was directed at the closest person to me for years, my husband!!
Because of my sexual abuse, I did not like to turn the lights off during SEX, I jumped in my sleep all night, and just never rested easy. When I began to share with my husband for the first time about being sexually abused.....he said, "It all makes sense now!!" I told him, because although, I faked like it was good and he was, I just could not enjoy it. I am not telling you my story to share with you that I was abused, this is to help you release anything that you are holding on to that will NOT allow you to have the SEXUAL Freedom that is waiting for you!! It is an AWESOME feeling to share this very intimate act with a person that you will be with forever, your husband!! You cannot do this if you are holding on to the past!! Also, it is not fair to them that you withhold from them one of the most important things that they NEED and Desire!! Sex is fun, exciting and should be ever evolving to remain pleasurable for both of you. Also remember, WE CHANGE....something that you liked before, may not be that appealing.....don't let your husband continue to do that....try something new. I remember when I liked initiating SEX after we started going to Spirit of Faith and I got free!! Then, I changed and wanted Darryl to initiate more.....if I did not communicate that to him, he would still think that I wanted to initiate......I would be upset and he would not even know why, so COMMUNICATE your sexual desires to your husband and make certain that he knows exactly how you like it!! I am so SEXUALLY FREE now and I could never be this way if I did not hear the Word about breaking free from my past!! For this reason, I am sharing this with you!! Love you and Continue to look at YourSELF to see areas of your life that need change, so you can truly be FREE!!
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You are awesome. Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteAs a single, I learned a lot from this. Having been delivered from sexual perversion there are a lot of things that I must make sure I am completely free from before I go into the covenant of marriage! I do believe I have let go of all of my past, and i know every soultie has been broken, glory to God! But this email has definitely been a reminder. Thank you!
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